Postby Angie » Sat Mar 23, 2013 7:28 am
I believe it is hard for many individuals to love unconditionally is because they learnt in their formative years that love is conditional. This became very visible to me when I reflected on a conversation that I had with one of my friends,who is parent, sometime ago. We were talking about her children and she mentioned to me, in passing, how she acknowledged and rewarded her child when she received good results for her school examinations. It then dawned on me that my friend had unwittingly taught her child that love is conditional and in that she will only be loved if she did well in school.

In my view, the greatest gift that a parent could possibly give to a child is unconditionally love. This could be hard as they themselves may not necessarily know what unconditional love looks and feels like. I believe it is only by doing so, can a child become emotionally balanced and confident thus capable of radiating unconditional love to those around them. With unconditional love, fear, resentment and anger can be kept at bay.

Post by alexfong » Thu Mar 28, 2013 1:55 pm
Rewarding kids when they do well in studies is an easy way to raise kids. The real test is when they do not do well in studies and relationship, how do you treat them then?

Many parents are so tied up with time. They forgot to guide and develop their children's character. Character is a much more complex subject to guide compared to improving in their studies'

To teach your kids to love good and bad things is not easy. Parents must learn to understand the meaning of love and the application before they can explain and teach the kids. If they are not willing to learn the 3P, it is impossible for the kids to love correctly.

Doing well in studis does not mean love. It can mean fear, ego, inferiority or superiority complex....endless reasons. .But to teach your kids to study with love and to love all creation, requires a parent to understand 3P deeply and passionately to guide the kids in this direction. 3P broaden horizons and deepen the understanding of life, clt kids will be balance and secured in their upbringing if they learn this.

Balance and harmonious energy field will usher in good things in life. Character development (or the heart) is the key to doing well in life and not just studying at school. Learning things at school or at work cannot filter out bad information, Eg of doing well in studies but bad friends can input bad influence like smoking.

So parents have lost focus on this aspect of upbringing in their kids.